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3 Ways A Wife Can Respect Her Husband!

8/29/2016

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A few weeks ago I wrote a blog sharing three ways husbands can love their wives. In this follow up blog I want to share three ways a wife can respect her husband. Obviously there are more ways for both husbands and wives to love and respect each other, but here are a few practical suggestions...

1. Speak well of, and to, your husband! 
Words are important and words are powerful! Paul says with our words we have the power to build up or tear down (Eph. 4:29). The words a wife speaks to her husband, and the tone which she says them, has profound influence upon her husband. For many guys, words of affirmation are their love language (see Gary Chapman's, The Five Love Languages). In addition, do not belittle or speak down of your husband in front of others, not even your closest friends. Speaking well of your husband will show great respect and admiration for who he is and his role in your marital relationship. 

2. Accept the fact that you married a sinner...and so are you! 
No one is perfect, so do not expect your husbands to be perfect! When your husband makes a mistake you do not have to say, "I told you so!" Trust me, those are the last words he wants to hear from you. Stop and ask yourself what you can say to encourage your husband. He will make plenty of mistakes, which means you will have lots of opportunities to show grace. Remember, grace is receiving that which you do not deserve. No, he may not deserve your forgiveness, but remember the grace that God has shown you...that should be a good motivator for you to show him grace, too! 

​3. Let him know that you are his biggest fan! 
Let's be honest–guys like attention. Just consider some of the "not-so-smart" things we have done to get attention! But at the end of the day, guys still want to know that their wives are their biggest fans. Nothing will cause a man to withdraw and seclude himself faster than his wife offering her praise to everyone, but her husband. Let him know how proud you are of him. 

What are some other ways that wives can show respect to their husbands? Feel free to comment below...
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3 Ways A Husband Can Love His Wife Well!

8/12/2016

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Recently I preached a messaged titled "Refueling My Marriage." That sermon has generated comments and discussions that have been encouraging to me and I pray encouraging to other couples as well. I wanted to write a blog, actually two blogs (the second will be forthcoming), to help provide some practical applications to the sermon. 

One of the points from my sermon was that God has called husbands to love their wives (Eph. 5:25–26). Paul describes this love as both sacrificial and sanctifying. One of the questions raised is how do I love my wife well? How do I express my love toward my wife? There are lots of excellent resources available on this topic. I want to share what I believe are 3 ways a husband can love his wife well. Yes, I know there's more, but I know we husbands can't absorb a lot at one time! 

1. Listen more, talk less! 
I know this can be hard for guys! When our wives come to us with problems, pains, or concerns they are not always looking for an answer or for guidance, although we are always ready to give it! Guys, sometimes they just want us to listen! I remember early in our marriage Lindsey coming to me with something that was happening on her job. As a pastor, and a seminary graduate with a degree in biblical counseling, I was ready to help her and give her my suggestion on how to handle the situation. She finally looked at me and politely, yet directly, said, "Kelly, I don't need a sermon right now, I just need you to listen!" I'll never forget those words. I quickly learned that my wife just wanted me to listen. I sincerely thought she wanted an answer, a solution, a fix. No, that's what guys want, but that's not always what our wives want. So, how do we know when it's okay to offer our advice? Here's what I did--I asked Lindsey to tell me when she wanted my opinion. I would also begin asking her, "Honey, are you wanting me to just listen or do you want my help on working toward a resolution?" This approach has been so beneficial to our relationship. So, listen more, guys, and talk less! 

2. Speak your wife's love language! 
​One of the best selling marriage books has been Gary Chapman, "The 5 Live Languages." This book has sold millions of copies, been translated into many languages, and helped thousands of marriages! In his book, Chapman explains that every person has a love language. Our job as husbands and wives is to speak the language of our spouse. The 5 love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Chapman does well to explain each of these languages, giving examples of how these play our in our lives and marriages. However, here's the bottom line, problems can come into a marriage we we aren't speaking our spouses love language. Guys, if you think that giving gifts is your wives love language, and she isn't responding to all of the gifts that you lavish upon her, chances are you're speaking the wrong language. Her love language might be acts of service. What might be more expressive of love toward your spouse is to wash the dishes or fold the laundry, instead of buying her roses or a manicure gift certificate. Guys (and gals), you'll do your marriages a favor to read this book!I know guys don't like to read, so purchase an audio book and listen to it! No excuses!

​3. Offer words of affirmation! 
We've established the fact that we need to listen more and talk less. But when we do speak, be wise with what we say! Guys, our wives are constantly comparing themselves to each other and to women they don't even know. The media, and Hollywood, paints an image of the "perfect" woman. But our wives forget that those "perfect" women have had countless plastic surgeries and are covered in 10 lbs of makeup! Guys, we need to help our wives understand that we love them just the way they are! Our words should be affirmative and encouraging. 

My wife and I were recently at an event with several other couples. I could not help but to keep staring at my wife--she looked so beautiful. I can still see her that day... she had on white capris and a yellow, sleeveless blouse. She wore a modest neckless and silver earrings. I can even smell her perfume! She looked perfect! When we left, I simply made the statement to her, "Babe, you were the pretties woman out there today! You looked so nice and just stood out above everyone else!" She really did! Later that night after we put our son to bed, Lindsey walked up to me and said, "Hey! You don't know how much it meant to me today when you told me how nice I looked! It was random and unexpected, but it meant the world to me!" 

There are other ways that husbands can express their love toward their wives, but I hope this is a helpful start. 

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