A few weeks ago I wrote a blog sharing three ways husbands can love their wives. In this follow up blog I want to share three ways a wife can respect her husband. Obviously there are more ways for both husbands and wives to love and respect each other, but here are a few practical suggestions...
1. Speak well of, and to, your husband!
Words are important and words are powerful! Paul says with our words we have the power to build up or tear down (Eph. 4:29). The words a wife speaks to her husband, and the tone which she says them, has profound influence upon her husband. For many guys, words of affirmation are their love language (see Gary Chapman's, The Five Love Languages). In addition, do not belittle or speak down of your husband in front of others, not even your closest friends. Speaking well of your husband will show great respect and admiration for who he is and his role in your marital relationship.
2. Accept the fact that you married a sinner...and so are you!
No one is perfect, so do not expect your husbands to be perfect! When your husband makes a mistake you do not have to say, "I told you so!" Trust me, those are the last words he wants to hear from you. Stop and ask yourself what you can say to encourage your husband. He will make plenty of mistakes, which means you will have lots of opportunities to show grace. Remember, grace is receiving that which you do not deserve. No, he may not deserve your forgiveness, but remember the grace that God has shown you...that should be a good motivator for you to show him grace, too!
3. Let him know that you are his biggest fan!
Let's be honest–guys like attention. Just consider some of the "not-so-smart" things we have done to get attention! But at the end of the day, guys still want to know that their wives are their biggest fans. Nothing will cause a man to withdraw and seclude himself faster than his wife offering her praise to everyone, but her husband. Let him know how proud you are of him.
What are some other ways that wives can show respect to their husbands? Feel free to comment below...